Self Talk


This exercise helps students become more aware of the internal dialog and that we have control over what we tell ourselves. We have a choice not to choose thoughts that feed into our anger.


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I found this handout in an old file cabinet in a church in Massachusetts. I don't know who was the original author.


  1. I start with a discussion about how people tend to distort our thoughts when we are angry and tell ourselves things that aren't even accurate and feed our anger. I tell a personal story where I caught myself doing this. I explain that with awareness, we can choose thoughts that calm us rather than make us angry.
  2. I distribute the handouts, and we go around the room, each person reading one item from the handout. I always tell the men they can pass if they don't want to read. I also tell them that we will all pick a favorite and share it later, so if they hear one they like, they should remember it.
  3. We read the handout as a group.
  4. We then continue around the circle, and each person reads one that they like, and say why
  5. I finish by suggesting they develop a strategy to use one of these statements or one they write themselves to use when angry.
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